Letting Go

I remember writing on this topic in Cross River State NYSC publication. I was filled with so much motivation as a fellow corps member just requested I pay some amount of money for hitting her hands while her "then" latest Iphone fell and broke. As much as I can't remember what i wrote, I'm fine I remember the topic and I also remember I paid her when the act was not intended.

LETTING GO of grudges isn't as easy as it sounds for most of us but we will all agree it's one of the best thing anyone can do; Else, our daily advocate for peace and preach against hate are shams. Grudge springs when our subconsciousness accepts and registers a hurtful scenario caused by a person(s) or thing(s) which influences our actions towards d person(s) or thing(s). This means, when we hold grudges we create hatred or dislike for the person(s) or thing(s) which reflects in our actions towards them.

Grudge alters our peace of mind, causes pains, it brings out the monster in us. In fact, the offender would have forgotten the event while we carry it about like an handbag. why not use that time to think about how to multiply income. We all can LET GO when we realise we have total control of our body, we choose to accept every of our feelings e.g. we choose to love or hate. What if you decide never to be hurt by a man's action? What if you have power and control over your feelings? What if you forgive? What if you choose happiness?

Trust me, there are people who barely feel offended you can say they are experienced, yes! They are, something in them tells them not to register anything as bad or hurtful and there are people who forgive easily or at the sound of "I'm sorry". They see everything as a way of life instead of holding grudges they quickly let go and think of a better way to cross the path. You can be one.

Psychologist says holding grudge produces cortisol and diminishes oxytocin https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201504/holding-grudge-produces-cortisol-and-diminishes-oxytocin

Forgiveness is hard. It’s even harder when the person who hurts us never apologised but we should always find a way to forgive and move on.

 If you still find it difficult to LET GO here are some tips to help.

• See everything about life as vain
• Remind yourself that you can't erase the occurrence
• Talk to the offender in a peaceful tone and manner - ask for an apology
• Think of an advantage of the occurrence; see it as a lesson
• Put yourself in the offender's shoe
• Write it out, read over and over then rip away